Weddings are crazy and so are family visits! I just recently had both happen as all of my immediate family swooped in and ended up staying with us. It was 6 adults and 2 kids in one small house. Needless to say family means that there is a lot of love to go around, but it also means some stressful times with everyone’s opinions and views colliding.
My mom was able to fly in a week early than everyone else and thus we had some time to ourselves. My husband and I wanted to make sure she had a good enough time as possible and took her out to some expensive eats to give her the best possible. We ended up taking her to a really nice sushi restaurant with high quality sushi that wasn’t budget friendly. She wasn’t impressed at all with the amount of food on our plates though and we then joked around about how she likes quantity over quality.
After the rest of the family came in, we took everyone out to a sushi buffet. Not the best quality sushi ever but pretty good for a sushi buffet. My mom equated it to be the same quality as the expensive sushi place we took her to. My father asked me quietly if the place was owned by Chinese people. When I replied most likely yes, he nodded and said he thought so because the quality of the fish wasn’t great.
Lessons learned from our experience:
-Our preferences aren’t the same as other people’s preferences. We like quality over quantity and my mom and dad are the reverse.
-You just can’t please Chinese parents. They are going to have something to say no matter what.
-Most importantly, we shouldn’t have worried about making sure they had a good time eat a restaurant or doing something fun. It’s about the time we spent together that was important and not what we did and how much we spent!
We wanted to make sure everyone had a good time but in the end it was those unplanned moments we had together that we really cherished. It wasn’t the dinners we remembered, but the uncontrived moments when we got to talk and spend some quality time together. My family doesn’t get to be together much anymore since we live so far away from each other. Across many states and across the country even. At best we get the whole family together once a year.
The best moments I had were actually free or extremely low cost from this trip! Spending some quiet time with my sister and mom as we watched the kids in the playground. Having a fire pit going in the backyard and roasting s’mores. Watching Tangled (for the 3rd time at least) and cuddling with the kids. Those were the moments I cherished the most instead of the expensive sushi dinner!
Sometimes we all need a little reminder to remember what is important to us.
What have been your favorite moments lately?